As part of our Why I Care series, we asked Mica Rose, one of our Hospice Caregivers, to share her experiences. Her thoughtful answers offer a glimpse into the compassion, trust, and meaningful moments that define hospice care. If you’ve ever wondered what hospice is really like, we hope her answers to these questions and her insightful perspective bring comfort, understanding, and reassurance.
About Mica
Mica Rose didn’t step into hospice care because of some grand calling…at least, not at first. She was simply looking to change her hours. Such a small, practical decision at the time. What she didn’t realize was that this mundane adjustment would open the door to something extraordinary. What began as a simple schedule change became something she now describes as being gently led by God into a ministry.
Mica, how do you bring comfort to your patients?
I start by simply being present – listening, learning what brings them comfort, and finding small ways to brighten their day. Sometimes it’s sharing their favorite music, bringing their favorite flavor of Ensure, offering a hand massage, or even arranging a special meal like a steak dinner and a beer. Those little moments can mean so much.
What does “being present” mean in your role?
Being present means giving my patients and their families my full attention. During our time together, I focus on them; not my tablet, not my phone, or anything else; just them. And I make sure they feel heard, valued, and cared for in every moment. There is nothing I want to miss, not even a small utterance.
What have your patients taught you about life?
So many things, but mainly they’ve taught me that growing older is truly a privilege and that every stage of life has value.
Can you share a moment when you felt like you truly made a difference?
Two moments come to mind. One patient had been declining, and I had promised to bring her an ice cream sundae for breakfast because it was her favorite treat. After a difficult night, she surprised us all by getting up to the table and enjoying every bite. She passed away later that evening. Knowing she was able to enjoy something she loved one last time is a memory I’ll always treasure, and so will her family.
Another happened when I was with a patient who had no family. I sat with her and held her hand a lot, being the calm, reassuring presence to let her know she was safe and not alone. She took her last breath while I was holding her hand, and I could actually feel her fade into peace with a smile on her face. I knew it mattered that I was there.
How do you support families as well as your patients during this time?
Every family is different, so I communicate in the way that feels most comfortable to them. We always make sure they know they’re supported and that someone from our hospice team is available 24 hours a day whenever they need us. Sometimes that’s a phone call, a text, really any form of communication they prefer. Staying in touch and open communication is the important thing.
How do you find beauty or peace in such emotional moments?
It’s an incredible honor to walk alongside someone during the final chapter of life. One moment I’ll never forget was sitting with a patient who had been unresponsive for several days. As I held her hand, she suddenly smiled three times before peacefully passing away. It’s a moment that has stayed with me ever since.
What do you wish more people understood about hospice care?
Many people still think hospice means death is imminent, but that’s often not the case. Hospice can support patients for months, and sometimes even years, while helping them live as comfortably and meaningfully as possible.
How do you take care of yourself while caring for others?
I rely on healthy boundaries and the support of an amazing team. Hospice care is truly a team effort, with each member supporting patients and families at different stages. Working together allows us to provide compassionate care while also caring for ourselves so we can continue serving others. Taking care of myself allows me to be there for the families who depend on me.
How has this work changed you?
It has given me a deeper appreciation for life and taught me to treasure the simple moments. Life is incredibly precious and should never be taken for granted.
What is your main “Why?”
Because the unknown can be frightening, and no one should have to face it alone. It is a privilege to be invited into such private, meaningful moments and to earn the trust of my patients and their families. I never take that trust for granted.
We’re always here.
If you or a loved one have questions about hospice care and are in one of these counties, reach out to learn more about our hospice services and to meet our care team. Feel free to call us at 866-282-6090. We’re ready to speak with you and answer your questions.